Conflict Resolution Workbook

[Mary B.]

Since our coho does NOT have a conflict resolution team, or tools, and since I am a freelance writer, I have decided to create a workbook that will help guide people through the process of initiating and moderating resolution discussions.

I will publish the workbook on Kindle, Smashwords, and a dozen other epub sites, but if you are a member of The Cohousing Life, I will be happy to provide a copy to you, for free.

Please leave your email address below if you would like a free copy.

[Carol Agate]

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[Ann Christine]

We need some kind of help! I wouldlike to take a look at what you have written. Free is the ticket!
[e-mail]
thank you

[angelwoman49]

I would like to see what you have done. Thanks for sharing. Jan Kenney. [e-mail]

[suz]

I also would like to see this new tool when it's ready. Thanks.

Read more: thecohousinglife.proboards.com/thread/23/conflict-resolution-workbook?page=1#ixzz3lfF8A4Ml

[Cheron]

I'm part of www.quimpervillage.com.
We use dynamic governance for running ourselves and it's been pretty helpful so far.

[Mary B.]

We use sort of a hybrid form of dynamic governance (proposals are prepared in advance, posted on the website, etc ... but we do the multiple rounds of discussion, revision and voting).

However the type of conflict this workbook is directed to is not so much about group cohesion as it is about interpersonal spats that happen outside of meetings. Things like insults, nasty emails, social snubs, gossip, lack of respect for boundaries.

One thing I've observed about this kind of very close living, physically and emotionally, is that friction can quickly become really hot, because incidents one could walk away from in a normal neighborhood, can't readily be ignored in cohousing. I've also noticed quite a bit of social "enabling" because people are too afraid to deal with conflict bluntly, so they just allow some personalities free rein and behaviors occur that would never be tolerated in a professional setting.

The workbook helps people through a process of defining the problem, proposing solutions, trying to see the others' point of view, and then selecting people for support and moderation, and how to moderate a sit-down meeting about the problem. Plus, followup and "homework" assignments.

[Katie McCamant]

Would love to see your handbook...gather its not ready yet? did you say there was a draft available somewhere?

[Mary B.]

Not quite ready. The cover is designed, and I'm in the process of finishing the next-to-final draft this weekend. I hope to have some stories and other perspectives to add and have it done and published by Christmas.

[Jenny]

I'd love a copy too please.
Jenny
[e-mail]
Columbia Ecovillage, Portland OR

[Liz Brown]

Flower City Cohousing Community would like a copy please

[martymaskall]

I would love a copy of your Conflict Resolution Workbook.

Marty Maskall
[e-mail]
Project Manager & Future Resident of www.FairOaksEcoHousing.org
916-967-2472 (Sacramento area)

[Simone]

Hi there - thank you for the kind offer, I would absolutely love to have a copy of your book when it is ready - [e-mail]. Many thanks in advance

[Flora]

I am aslo interested in your handbook and would be happy to have a copy - [e-mail]

[Mary B.]

Thanks, everyone! The handbook is finished, doing the ebook layout 2nd week of October!