Post by Mary B. on Jan 21, 2016 12:58:38 GMT -8
I'm very close to finishing the DIY Conflict Resolution Workbook! Shooting for publication next week! 
Meanwhile, I have a section at the end called Notes for Cohousing Communities in which I talk about problems specific to these types of communities. Here is a list of problems that can generate conflict, culled from my own experience and submitted by others. Can you think of any that I have not included?
* Conflict avoidance, instead of real conflict resolution
* Absence of normal consequences — the absence of consequences you find in "real world" scenarios like businesses, non-profits, social organizations.
* Culture clashes — most often seen in team leadership, turf ownership, and participation. Often related to differing management styles. For instance, some people like everything to be quantified (work hours, etc) and others like things to be inspirational. Some of the problems mentioned are that team leaders set themselves up as Team Tsars and never relinquish control, some people harshly judge others for not participating socially, and so on. Sometimes people of different nationalities approach management and participation with very different expectations.
* Compelled behaviors and expectations
* Lack of sensitive conflict management — some communities that do have conflict resolution processes only apply them to material disputes, and not to emotional hurt
* Non-transparent channels of communication — often caused by fear of technology and digital communication. Leads to proliferation of gossip, cliques, and manipulation.
* Old Guard elitism
* Over-reacting to minor skirmishes – trying to enforce new rules for everyone instead of negotiating a minor dispute
Meanwhile, I have a section at the end called Notes for Cohousing Communities in which I talk about problems specific to these types of communities. Here is a list of problems that can generate conflict, culled from my own experience and submitted by others. Can you think of any that I have not included?
* Conflict avoidance, instead of real conflict resolution
* Absence of normal consequences — the absence of consequences you find in "real world" scenarios like businesses, non-profits, social organizations.
* Culture clashes — most often seen in team leadership, turf ownership, and participation. Often related to differing management styles. For instance, some people like everything to be quantified (work hours, etc) and others like things to be inspirational. Some of the problems mentioned are that team leaders set themselves up as Team Tsars and never relinquish control, some people harshly judge others for not participating socially, and so on. Sometimes people of different nationalities approach management and participation with very different expectations.
* Compelled behaviors and expectations
* Lack of sensitive conflict management — some communities that do have conflict resolution processes only apply them to material disputes, and not to emotional hurt
* Non-transparent channels of communication — often caused by fear of technology and digital communication. Leads to proliferation of gossip, cliques, and manipulation.
* Old Guard elitism
* Over-reacting to minor skirmishes – trying to enforce new rules for everyone instead of negotiating a minor dispute